From Brokenness to Wholeness: The Role of Forgiveness in My Wholeness - Part 3

Forgiveness was one of the hardest steps on my healing journey—but it was also one of the most necessary. I thought I could be made whole without it. I thought time would heal everything. But I quickly learned that time doesn’t heal what we continue to carry in our hearts. I had to make a choice: keep holding on to the offense or let it go and finally live free.

Forgiveness was the bridge that led me to wholeness.

 Holding on to unforgiveness placed me in a silent prison. 🤫

There was a time I didn’t realize how much bitterness I was still carrying. I had moved on, or so I thought—but deep down, there were people I hadn’t truly released. 😡 I replayed conversations. I remembered every offense. I built emotional walls to protect myself. But here’s the truth: unforgiveness doesn’t protect you—it poisons you.

Yah began to show me that my healing wasn’t complete because my heart was still chained to the pain others caused. 💔 And as long as I held on to those chains, I couldn’t step fully into the freedom He had for me.

Let me be clear: forgiveness is not saying that what they did was okay. It’s not pretending you weren’t hurt. It’s not denying the depth of the pain of the circumstances.

Forgiveness is simply, surrendering your right to retaliate and trusting that your Heavenly Father will be your healer and your vindicator.

“Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath...” ~ Romans 12:19

When I finally let go of the weight I was carrying—through prayers and tears, I didn’t just set them free. I set myself free. 😊

But there was another layer of forgiveness I didn’t want to expect. And that was the fact that I had to forgive myself. I had to release myself from the guilt and shame I had been holding on to. Mistakes I made. Seasons I stayed too long. Times when I didn’t speak up or protect my own heart. Yahuah wasn’t holding it over my head—so why was I?

By letting go of this self-condemnation I began to see myself through His eyes—not as a failure, but as forgiven, chosen, and deeply loved.

You can’t walk 🚶🏽‍♀️‍➡️ in wholeness while holding onto brokenness. And unforgiveness is one of the most subtle and dangerous forms of brokenness. It clings to your soul, and little by little, it drains your joy, blocks your growth, and clouds your perspective.

When I finally surrendered my pain, Elohim met me with healing.

When I released others from their offense, He released me into a new level of freedom.

When I forgave myself, He covered me in grace.

Forgiveness was not a one-time event—it was a process. But with every decision to forgive, I stepped closer to the wholeness my soul was craving.

❤️‍🩹 If you’re holding on to unforgiveness, I want to lovingly ask you to let it go? Not because they deserve it. Not because you’re weak. But because you deserve peace. You deserve to heal. You deserve to be whole.

Forgiveness is not a feeling. It’s a decision—a sacred, courageous, life-changing one.

If that's you, pray this prayer of release:

“Heavenly Father, I surrender the pain I’ve carried. I release those who hurt me, and I release myself from guilt. Help me to walk in forgiveness, not by my own strength, but by the power of Your Spirit. Lead me into wholeness and let Your love be the healing balm to my every wound. In your powerful name, Amen.”

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